So how do I help my friend who is struggling with an eating disorder?
Every person varies in what helps or what doesn't help but there are general things that apply to most people struggling with eating disorders. I came up with these from reading other resources, my own experience and from what others have told me helped them.

• Don’t get angry or upset with them. If you are noticing a problem it probably has too much a hold for them to just stop right then and there. Healing is a process and they need your help. Even if you are frustrated and don’t understand, don’t show it.
• Love them. Love them in the midst of their struggle.
• Know that you cannot do anything to make them seek help if they do not want to and you cannot change them but if they do want help you need to be there to invest the truth into them.
• Give them scripture concerning who God says they are. Truth defeats the lies that they believe. Lies like “I’m not good enough”, If I was skinnier people would like me more,” “if I lose a few more pounds I will be beautiful.” These lies are completely opposite from who your friend really is so if they hear the truth more often they might start believing it.
• Don’t be afraid to tell someone in an authority position or their parent in order to get them extended treatment. If a friend is losing a drastic amount of weight it is worth telling someone.
• Ask. Ask questions about how they are doing. If the two of you have talked about her/or his struggle don’t ignore the fact that there is a problem. Especially if they have reached out to you; it means a lot to know you care.
• Be a friend. Don’t act weird around them and make sure they eat something at each meal. If you notice some strange behavior, confront them and tell them your concerns.
• Do not, do not make jokes about their weight. Even though you see them as skinny they do not. Your comments will make them feel worse.
• Compliment them. I love going around referring to my friends as beautiful because they are God’s creation, individuals with different qualities and gifts. They are so beautiful and I just desire for them to realize that they truly are beautiful.